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International-Aside t1_jaetk0j wrote

so what is your husband doing to create boundaries with his mother? I absolutely dont think you should live with her but whether you do or not, if he doesnt take the reins on this, you and your marriage will still suffer for it.

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ADHD_BunnyMinx OP t1_jaez4ri wrote

He does say that if I don't want to move in with them then we won't, but it's always with a feeling of hesitation. Things with him and his mom are complicated. She died a few years ago and was revived and ever since then he can't seam to imagine a life without her in it. I'm not saying cut her off at all before anyone jumps there, I'm just meaning it as he adores her and loves her and can't put her at arms length now. He doesn't like how extreme she has gotten but he will humor her and let her talk however with no word of "that's a bit hurtful" or anything else. When she leaves the room him and his father jokingly say "Everything is the devil, (insert name)" and carry on as nothing happened.

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