You want to go out drinnking with your friends. He doesn't want you to go out drinking with your friends. There's a very simple solution to this problem: Go out drinking with your friends.

He doesn't get to dictate your behavior. He doesn't get to tell you who you're allowed to spend time with or how you spend that time. I don't understand why you would even begin to entertain the idea that he gets to control you like this.

"Honey, we've had this conversation several times, and I understand how you feel. However, these are my friends, this is my last semester of college, and I want to go out drinking with them, so that's what I'm going to do. It clearly bothers you, so we're just not going to talk about this anymore, because I refuse to let you make me feel bad for living a normal life. That's my decision. If you have a problem with that, then you should probably find a different girlfriend."

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This is his own issue to work through and trying to control your behavior as a way to manage his anxiety isn't appropriate. It would be one thing to ask for an occasional check-in/update to reassure him that you're safe etc, but getting upset at you for doing completely normal and healthy activities is unreasonable. Sounds like he needs some therapy.

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In a relationship with a normal, rational, mature person. No, that's not too much to ask. That's how healthy relationships work.

In a relationship with an insecure, jealous, controlling person with trust issues. Yes, that's way too much to ask for.

>He has had many traumatic experiences drinking and expresses that he feels uncomfortable and anxious when I go out with my friends to drink

So, his past baggage is impacting his new relationship. Nice.

If he doesn't like it, then that is his problem. Don't let someone put a leash on you and isolate you from your friends.

If you want to go have fun with your friends, this is the age to do it. And if he doesn't trust or like that... then find yourself a boyfriend who doesn't try to control your behavior.

What does he expect you to do? Sit at home EVERY weekend and be on facetime? That sounds like a pathetic depressing relationship.

He's got no right to be mad or upset with you.

Think about in a years time... with the track your relationship is on, it will probably go south.

Would you look back and resent the fact that you missed spending time with your friends for an ex who controlled you?

Eh, too controlling imo. If you want to cheat you can easily cheat without him knowing.

Imo people in commuted relationships should not be with the opposite sex while intoxicated