Submitted by yoyo31233 t3_11dz8u1 in relationship_advice
So I am in just at the very beginning stages of dating a new guy. We have been on 2 dates and have 2 more planned but have not kissed yet. Usually I am a sleep with a guy on the first date if I like him kind of girl so I don't know how to navigate a guy who hasn't even sexualized me. After a month of texting he only just told me that he thinks I'm beautiful. I like him a lot but I an so worried if there will be sexual chemistry. Can anyone more used to going a slower pace for physical touch just give me some insight on how to go about it
YoProfWhite t1_jabmdmr wrote
I was in a situation like this way back when. My old gf was ready to hop into bed before I was ready and we had to take it a bit slow (which frustrated her quite badly).
I would say that this guy is either hesitant to push into the physical aspects (which has nothing to do with you) or doesn't want to come off as overly sexual. I would say that engaging in smaller acts of touching can help make him more comfortable with being closer to you and will lead to more intimate acts.
It'll come with time. It isn't you doing anything wrong, he just probably doesn't want to fuck this up (ironically).