He's 28 and told you to shut the fuck up over a video game? I think you meant 16.

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Well you're only 6 months into the relationship with this boy. You really don't want to be stuck with that type for a long time do you?

If this is how he acts now it will most likely get much worse once you are locked down together by a lease, and one of you has nowhere to go. You are correct in assuming this will escalate.

I doubt my opinion on this will be popular but I am going to offer it anyway.

I think you are being too sensitive. If he doesn't treat/talk to you that way under any other circumstances, then I don't see the instances as an over-all issue. Sounds like he might be taking gaming a bit too serious (I'm not a gamer so of course I feel this way) but I don't think this is indicative of someone who is otherwise predisposed to being abusive/violent.

My analogy may be totally off, but it's like saying someone is likely to physically abuse you because they pushed you out of the way of an object falling on you that would only cause you minimal harm if it hit you. I'm sure everyone is going to shoot all kinds of holes in my analogy and that's ok. It's all subjective anyway.

Oh honey you have not played cod, apex, other games that make you so mad. Sometimes you just want to say shut the fuck up. Personally for my bf to spectate me when playing video games like a ranked game and talks non stop telling me there’s someone there when an intense play happens I say shut up bc you’re trying to focus kinda like studying for an exam you need quietness. I don’t say stfu tho I find it rude. Advice: leave him bc you want a nice caring bf and he hurt your feelings I’m sure he will keep repeating that behavior

So my husband and I are both avid gamers, as are all three of our sons and let me tell you: few things are as irritating as backseat gamers. I'm sure you were trying to help and yes, it was rude of him to speak to you like that. But sometimes you're just really in the zone during a game and other people pointing things out can be a distraction.

Again, not saying he's right but I am saying that it's an understandable reaction on some level. Especially if it's a single-player game. Multiplayers tend to have comms so you get used to chatter but for something like The Last of Us? Yeah, let's just say it can get annoying when you keep dying to the same bloater and you hear, "have you tried blah blah blah," or "watch out for yadda yadda yadda," while you're sitting there going, "I know!" In our household we say "I love you but shush" a lot, ha ha.

Bottom line is that no, he shouldn't be using language like that with you in that kind of tone over a video game. But, at least in my opinion, you were also being overly sensitive because some games do get pretty intense and when you're in that zone, well, tunnel vision can happen. It doesn't excuse anything but it is a thing. My husband and I taught our kids that at the end of the day, it's just a game and it's not worth hurting someone's feelings over. If your boyfriend doesn't have any anger issues outside of gaming, I'd say you shouldn't worry too much. The amount of obscenities I've hurled at random characters in games would make my Army vet father blush. But if your boyfriend has issues with anger in other areas or is dismissive of you in other ways then yeah, I would say you have a right to be concerned then.