I’m looking to understand if people who’ve lost either of their parents go through the same thing. I find myself being very anxious/on edge around the time of his death anniversary which is in March and this usually lasts several weeks, sometimes months. I lost my father when I was 22 and have carried this loss with me. I feel a lot more like myself/more grounded after the date has passed. While I am in therapy trying to work through this, I’m still struggling. Any advice on this would be great

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ionlyreadtitle t1_jaf3u6f wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:51 PM

Keep up the therapy and talk with them more about this.

Good luck.

AuntyVenom t1_jaf4m8q wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:56 PM

Totally. It's been long enough since my mom died that I don't even always remembre the actual date, but the runup to the date finds me out of sorts, irritable, not even knowing why necessarily. it also happens around her birthday & her anniversary date with my dad. It's great that you're in therapy to learn coping skills! Losing a parent is awful, if you had a good relationship with them.

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