I've been talking to that guy for about two or three weeks so far and been on a few dates. I'm 24f he's 28m.

Tonight he was just being way too touchy even after I told him I wasn't comfortable with it and that I had an infection that would make anything physical happening impossible. He kissed me in a way that hurt, even after I told him so, and kept forcing my hand down his pants/ forcing his into mine. He only stopped when I got angry and told him I don't feel safe with him and that I'm getting upset with him disrespecting my boundaries. To his defense, we had a few drinks that night and we're probably both feeling kind of tipsy. But after this incident I don't feel attracted to him anymore and would wish I could just ghost him. But we are supposed to meet again tomorrow and ghosting isn't a good thing to do.

So how do I handle this situation? Should I meet him face to face again? Talk to him at all? Or just cut him off and pray he won't develop into a stalker?

UPDATE: I told him that he went too far that night and I don't feel safe meeting up with him again. He apologized and I accepted his apology but said I'd still not want to be in contact anymore. He's still trying to text me, so I'm going to repeat myself once more and then block him. Thank you all for your encouragement and support, I used to be a people pleaser, so enforcing boundaries is still kind of scary for me, especially after having had bad experiences with people not reacting well to that. It really helped hearing other people's thoughts

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Andle_Randle t1_jaf4vf0 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:58 PM

You could tell him that after what happened the night before you aren't interested in meeting up again.

ineedtherapy87 t1_jaf4o42 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:57 PM

Girl ghost!! Boundaries were crossed! Don't put yourself in the position for them to be crossed again.

bezrodnyi-kosmopolit t1_jaf4tgm wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:58 PM

I agree, ghost or tell him he crossed your explicit boundaries and should feel bad about himself and then block.

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