kaibelf t1_jaauqpx wrote on February 28, 2023 at 2:30 AM

I’ll be blunt here: just because you are more closely related does not mean you are automatically closer as people and your closing line about being “actual siblings” says it all. They obviously get along better with each other, and that’s fine. You’re not automatically entitled to be a feature in their lives just because of your parents. If anything, what I get from your post is that you seem to resent that “your sibling” is close to “their cousin” as if it somehow needs to be about you. You mention that you see this person once or twice a year. Why wouldn’t they (and the coming child) be closer to the people they see very often and who they enjoy life with day to day, “actual sibling” aside?

Witty-Grocery-3092 OP t1_jaav8e0 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 2:33 AM

Then there’s no point in being in this child’s life if she makes no effort to be in mine.

kaibelf t1_jaaxcu4 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 2:49 AM

Correct, and therein lies the conundrum for you. Are you wanting to be in the child’s life simply to be in it (even in the periphery), or was that conditional based on how much your half-sister engages you from the start? You have to decide what “the point” was in the first place, and act accordingly.