AffectionateWheel386 t1_jae4ocf wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:55 PM

Personally, even though the age difference is only 10 years, this man is grooming you. I don’t believe on your own that you want to have other partners I think you want to fall in love and be with the person you love. And I think some of your distress is because he is pushing you so that he can cheat when he’s gone and make it legal so you have to deal with it. You need to get out of this relationship. Your suicidal thoughts though probably have origins in other things previously are due to stress of living in a way you don’t really want to live. And I’m not sure if you’re even aware of it.

peaches1076 t1_jaegl0o wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:12 PM

Thank you for your thoughts. I definitely don’t want to be in something like a poly relationship, but am open to exploring on an occasional basis but i did not see it as becoming a regular “friday night event” kind of thing. I do agree, the suicidal thoughts probably came from a culmination of a lot of pressure of different things (possibly a lifestyle i do not want).

Thank you for insight. Me and my bf are going for couple’s therapy and we’ll see how it goes from there. I personally do not think it was so that he could cheat. I trust him when he said it was not his intent. And if he wanted an open lifestyle, he could well able to break up with me and live a more open lifestyle as a single guy.

AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaeiz93 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:27 PM

Suicide is pretty severe, and then my experience poly relationships are exactly that. It gives one person in this case I believe your boyfriend, the ability to go outside of the relationship, whenever and wherever with whomever he wants I wish you the best of luck. Please take care of yourself and I’m gonna tell you it’s not worth it. These relationships never developed into a deep and meaningful abiding love