That's totally fair! I hadn't thought of that.

Maybe a better example then would be a couple of close friends that my wife and I have, both of whom I know personally on a much deeper level than the examples I gave, and both of whom I've known for years.

I have strong romantic feelings for both of them, one of them enough that my wife actually picked up on it a couple years ago and we had that talk, I assured her I had no intention of straying and it was just an attraction and it didn't cause any further insecurities or troubles in our marriage beyond that.

I have never been inappropriate with either of these women beyond normal things friends do, such as the occasional dirty joke or "that's what she said" nonsense.