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BriefHorror t1_ja9jj7l wrote

Leaving someone who makes you feel like shit all the time is always a good move. He is trying to isolate you. He's beating down your confidence to have control over you. If you could trade places with anyone in the world who would you feel comfortable subjecting to your situation? If you flinched and went no one leave immediately.

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Randobon t1_ja9m1wt wrote

Sounds like hell on earth.

Do you have access to a phone right now, to call a therapist and tell them all about it.

Ofc the rational choice is to leave, but its very hard for to do when bein used to abuse.

Best of luck and do the right choice

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chromatic_evil t1_ja9ro6c wrote

Yes! I am in individual therapy as well and my therapist is wonderful. Just can’t meet with them as often as I’d like and these thoughts have just been overwhelming to deal with lately.

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Randobon t1_ja9s9sm wrote

And you are not plannin to leave asap even with this help?

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chromatic_evil t1_ja9yyyj wrote

Oh it’s been on my mind for a few months (even though we always had these problems I never really saw how bad it was until we had a kid). I am extremely non confrontational (to a fault) and have a history of minimizing my feelings/experiences, which is why I wanted to lay it out here to see if there was anything to what I was feeling. Not to mention the logistics of trying to figure out where I would go, custody, finances, having no idea how he would react if I did leave, etc etc

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