Submitted by Real_Secret7770 t3_11eblqh in relationship_advice
We are in an LDR, we started dating in 2019 and we were always LDR, we pass a week or some days together every two months or so with dates in between, and the last week she came to spend a week with me, at a moment she told me she wanted to see my phone, i hesitated but gave it to her, she went straight into snapchat, entered the first chat with a girl from uni, she isn't close to me and the only texts there were sent by me one year ago, they were saved by that girl , "i like your hair like this, you should cut it more" she got mad and i panicked and blocked that girl, now she cant trust me and says she don't know how many other ladies am talking to, and if am cheating or if i like others more, and that i complimented others while i didn't compliment her, and she says she don't have any energy to deal with this because of problems we had in the past, and now she wants a break up, i love her way too much, i don't see my life without her, I'm in my final year in engineering school and i had plans to make us official, am sure she loves me too and she did a lot of sacrifices for me, too, some risks and is loyal, she asked for my Insta, i gave her access, she didn't find anything and told me i deleted chats, i did delete some chats but that was long ago when i did a clean-up to my account, she did go through the rest of my snap, i don't know what to do, i did tell her i will do efforts to get back her trust and it's a one-time mistake, she don't believe me and says she is done and needs a break to decide if she is going to break up.
history: we had some serious problems a year ago due to her lying about talking to a guy that i know is a playboy, and cause i found her talking disrespectfully with a guy plus her deleting her chats, and she was doing lots of efforts to get back my trust.
essres t1_jad18r5 wrote
So she's lied about who she has been talking to, deleted messages etc and is now trying to accuse you of something you haven't done.
Why are you apologising when you know you didn't do anything wrong?
Either she's incredibly insecure and controlling or she is up to no good again and is trying to gain some moral superiority
Either way she sounds like a massive red flag. Do you really need this crap when you're only 22
Bin her off and concentrate on your engineering degree