Submitted by Real_Secret7770 t3_11eblqh in relationship_advice
We are in an LDR, we started dating in 2019 and we were always LDR, we pass a week or some days together every two months or so with dates in between, and the last week she came to spend a week with me, at a moment she told me she wanted to see my phone, i hesitated but gave it to her, she went straight into snapchat, entered the first chat with a girl from uni, she isn't close to me and the only texts there were sent by me one year ago, they were saved by that girl , "i like your hair like this, you should cut it more" she got mad and i panicked and blocked that girl, now she cant trust me and says she don't know how many other ladies am talking to, and if am cheating or if i like others more, and that i complimented others while i didn't compliment her, and she says she don't have any energy to deal with this because of problems we had in the past, and now she wants a break up, i love her way too much, i don't see my life without her, I'm in my final year in engineering school and i had plans to make us official, am sure she loves me too and she did a lot of sacrifices for me, too, some risks and is loyal, she asked for my Insta, i gave her access, she didn't find anything and told me i deleted chats, i did delete some chats but that was long ago when i did a clean-up to my account, she did go through the rest of my snap, i don't know what to do, i did tell her i will do efforts to get back her trust and it's a one-time mistake, she don't believe me and says she is done and needs a break to decide if she is going to break up.
history: we had some serious problems a year ago due to her lying about talking to a guy that i know is a playboy, and cause i found her talking disrespectfully with a guy plus her deleting her chats, and she was doing lots of efforts to get back my trust.
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