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DplusLplusKplusM t1_jaeltr9 wrote

This is square peg/round hole territory. If your girlfriend is of a monogamous nature it's always going to be a problem for her that you're sleeping with other people. This is not a failing on her part, this is her orientation. The bottom line is that if you're truly poly, which you may not even know for sure yet as what you describe isn't classic "polyamory", you can't date monogamous people. What you're having now is just a one-sided open relationship. If you truly want polyamory you need to have it with other polyamorous people (wherein both you and they have other committed partners).

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DruHathaway OP t1_jaem8ux wrote

I've been thinking that, I've talked to her about it and her response is "I can't tell her what she'd be ok with" and "we don't know what the Future holds" and pretty much that if I'm not willing to try out relationship then she understands but she loves me and wants to try to let me be me

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