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MrsJonesy2012 t1_jaem13y wrote

Because you got in one relationship, discussed possibly being poly then a week later (or few days) got a 2nd girlfriend.

Have you done any reading or research? Do you know how to be a good hinge? Have you shown your girlfriend research and articles that may help her.

You didn't let your original technically speaking Primary relationship build a solid foundation. You just jumped straight in.

Your friend will always be a trigger for her now.

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DruHathaway OP t1_jaemlbk wrote

Yeah we talked about that. I didn't know what I was doing at the time. I did do some research though, and I was talking to her about boundaries and things we could be ok with together

And while it seems we can talk things out if my Friend ever comes up it feels like we just lose all progress working on it

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