my (20F) roommate (21F) is acting weird towards me after me planning to move out

Submitted by sailormoonbbyx t3_11ejk0q in relationship_advice

me and my two best friends decided to get an apartment together an hour away from our hometown in a big university town. i attended the university here for a semester but decided to transfer to my hometown’s university for online classes (smaller class sizes, the major i want)

i told them i planned on moving home soon because i don’t like living in this town. my mental health has been getting bad and i feel more comfortable living at home. after telling them this, roomate B has been ignoring me and acting weird towards me.

so, yesterday roomate B and i hung out and it was perfectly fine. then, roomate S and B hung out in the living room. i walked out there from my bedroom and they went dead silent and roomate B went to her room and it was super awkward. i assumed they were talking about me and asked roomate S what the hell they were doing. roomate S basically said that they weren’t at all, and roomate B just acts weird when it’s all 3 of us hanging out.

before i walked out, roomate S asked B why she acts weird when it’s all 3 of us. B replied “i just wish she (me) liked living here more.” this is weird, right? like i understand being bummed out that i’m moving out, but actively ignoring me ONLY when it’s all of us together? and acting weird towards me?

the moving company is supposed to come this friday and i’m scared to tell them. what should i do?

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deemsterporn t1_jaeiqfg wrote

Do they not know exactly when you're moving? What does the lease say? Have you given them enough time to find another roomie? Can they afford the rent without you?

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sailormoonbbyx OP t1_jaejg71 wrote

i’m fortunate enough to have my dad & student loans pay for my rent so my dad offered me a deal where i’ll pay half and he pays half for the rest of the time the lease is up (until august) so they won’t need another roommate or pay rent. she’s only upset because i won’t live with her anymore. i’m also leaving all of the furniture i brought so they can use it, like the couch and stuff bc that would be weird of me to take lol

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deemsterporn t1_jaenz1m wrote

I can't see any reason why they would be upset. I honestly think you're being a bit of a doormat here. They should be finding another roommate, it's unreasonable to pay rent until august if you won't be living there at all. You should absolutely take the furniture you purchased by yourself.

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