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ionlyreadtitle t1_ja97kmc wrote

What?

What exactly do you think the definition of boyfriend/girlfriend means?

And what is the definition of commit to you?

If you say you are boyfriend and girlfriend, then you are committed to each other.

If you are not committed. Then you are just penpals.

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-NP7- t1_ja97xpi wrote

committed as in engaged

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gordonf23 t1_ja98d4w wrote

Don't get engaged until you've lived with her for a least a year.

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-NP7- t1_ja98pwg wrote

I’m in a indian culture where couples don’t live together unless committed unfortunately

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gordonf23 t1_ja98w7p wrote

Well you certainly shouldn't get engaged if you've been apart for 2 years long distance. Live closer and spend a LOT more time in person with her before getting engaged.

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trishsf t1_ja97kjy wrote

No. You become committed when both of you want that and not because she’s pressuring you. It has to be something that you both really want. Curious. How much time have you spent together in real life?

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DplusLplusKplusM t1_ja9a04h wrote

The only "commitment" that really carries any weight is marriage. Even engagement is just a state of mind that can be broken at any moment without legal entanglement. Unless at some future point you two can live in the same city (not the same apartment, that would only come later after dating each other IRL for a while) it's pointless to talk about "committing". You just don't know each other well enough yet for any of that. It's very easy to present your finer points in an LDR. You won't know enough to put you credit/finances into each other's hands until you've been in the position to date in person for a significant period of time. Maybe find a diplomatic way to let her know that she's rushing things (and also that a verbal agreement is irrelevant).

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