should i (20F) give into a three-sum with my boyfriend (21M) of 3 years?

Submitted by Comprehensive_Ask312 t3_11ef5ns in relationship_advice

disclaimer im (20F) not attracted to girls, if im drunk tho i 100% am. But in reality im a straight woman. my boyfriend and i are EXTREMELY open with eachother which some could say to a fault but i think it makes us incredibly healthy. We say things to eachother that people dont ever let leave their own head. He explained to me that he has constant urges to want to be with other woman, and i also have urges to be with other men. He has asked countless times if we could have a threesum (he says tht rather than 1on1 sex with another person bc he knows i atleast need to know whats going on) and said i can even pick out the ugliest fattest girl, he just wants more experiences rather than feel tried down to sex with one person for the rest of eternity. And it’s completely valid because as humans we are sexual beings. I dont judge him and dont take it personal but it does bother me to actually think about him going thru with it. He isnt very sexual with me the way i feel he would be with someone else new, we are comfortable together so its really just sex😏 not SEX😻💦✨ and i am terrified of another female giving him that intense pleasure and addrenine of getting with someone for the first time. but is that selfish of me? I can picture myself getting railed by another guy and it doesnt bother me one bit. Its so conflicting bc i know its my own insecurities and traumas tht would make me want to take those experiences away from someone and act like i own him but i cant figure out how to stop feeling/being like that. I know he would never leave me for the person but i dont want another lady on his mind uk?

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ReachTheSky t1_jadmoi9 wrote

If you're not comfortable with it, which it sounds like you're not, definitely don't do it.

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Biauralbeats t1_jae1548 wrote

Unfortunately once the dick dips in, it is too late for second thoughts.

Perhaps another way to look at it, is a few moments of eye rolling worth possibly fracturing your relationship?

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