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Andyboro80 t1_jac2583 wrote

I don’t think that anything positive comes out of these discussions, for anyone, ever!

You’ve already alluded to how it could cause issues, so unless your intention is to cause an issue, I’d avoid it.

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IDryFly127 t1_jac2f2z wrote

Should I ask her to not discuss the past? I'm not trying to hide anything at all. I'm just worried she'll continue making random comments which could hurt if I don't say anything.

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Andyboro80 t1_jac2neq wrote

If it were me, I’d frame it around the past being exactly that, how happy you are with the present and how what’s been and gone doesn’t matter. I’d want to make it as non-confrontational as possible, while still making the point that I don’t want to know.

If that makes sense..

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IDryFly127 t1_jac2wu6 wrote

I understand what you're saying, and can definitely frame it that way without upsetting her. Thank you!

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