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Kjeldoriannnn t1_jaex703 wrote

You’ve been given a thread, your choice whether or not to pull on it.

I would start my own little investigation if I were you.

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Interesting-Month-56 t1_jaevdz1 wrote

I don’t know why people do this shit. Because a random letter or email with no details is just sus.

Basically you have three choices.

  1. ignore it - god knows who or why they sent it and malice and crazy are pervasive.

  2. follow your gut - don’t necessarily believe it but reflect on your relationship and behaviors and check out any threads that seem to be suspicious.

  3. talk to your SO - I don’t intend confrontation, but that’s an option. It will likely result in a denial and gaslighting if its true, anger if it’s not (and if it’s true). Possibly in violence. So be careful.

Personally I would go with option 2 first and then switch to either 1 or 3 once I had more information.

But you can’t spend your life pursuing random things, so you have to decide what to believe and when.

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mnhw93 t1_jaev70q wrote

I’d say poke around and be more observant. See if anything seems off. If you think it might be true hire a PI to find more info.

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kaibelf t1_jaev9so wrote

Could be something from the other party. I don't see it being something a rando just dropped in a mailbox that also included his name. It could also be a tip from a friend of yours who wants to let you know but is afraid of jeopardizing the friendship. Keep your eyes open for a couple of days and then have a discussion about it.

EDIT: Does he happen to have any kind of weird ex? It could also be someone like that who just wants to spoil his life.

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forget-me-not-37 t1_jaexd2t wrote

Did the letter have any evidence? Or information?

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Crazy_Perception_731 t1_jaevuyi wrote

It has to be from a friend of yours and doesn’t want to get in to the middle of it when the shit its the fan. Either you keep quiet and observe to see if its true or just confront him and say you know he is cheating and see how he reacts. His body language will tell you everything. If he denies ask to check his phone. If he refuses you have your answer.

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theycallhertammi t1_jaevwu4 wrote

Don’t say anything to him and watch his behavior. It could be a looney ex or someone who feels guilty about being with a taken man. I wouldn’t say anything to him about it because if he’s a cheater then he’s also a liar.

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itsameluigee t1_jaetli4 wrote

Unless they have details and or proof it could be a spammer

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[deleted] OP t1_jaeug2h wrote

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itsameluigee t1_jaeuv0l wrote

A name isn't exactly evidence. Anyone can do that.

The end goal could be anything. What do you feel? Anything alarming you can think of that could dignify the accusation?

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Independent-Fig-4595 t1_jaeys53 wrote

Was any proof offered? Do you have any way of verifying this?

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