Submitted by beautyandrage25 t3_11ek1yi in relationship_advice
So a little back story, I met and romantically linked up with a man at this time last year. We both have the goal of marriage and children by age 30. Our mindset is dating to marry. No fooling around. He’s the first person I’ve said I love you too and he says I’m the first girl he’s said it to.
We are still not boyfriend and girlfriend. I have pushed him away a bunch due to childhood trauma creating it difficult for me to feel safe with trust in relationships. He said because of me he’s taking things slow and hasn’t put a label on it. But the longer I go without a label, the more I push him away. He wants to do the relationship stuff, spend time together, be romantic, etc but it’s been a year of the same story. He also will not tell his family about me but was very eager to meet my friends and family. Should we just call it quits? I feel stuck and the lack of relationship title makes me feel unsafe.
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