My (25f) friend (24f) is friends with people who are bullying me and Idk what to do.

Submitted by throwaway983903 t3_11ei3ls in relationship_advice

I'm a really shy anxious person and don't have many friends. Recently I tried to put myself out there and asked to join an online group that my friends in that had some other acquaintances of mine in it. Basically it's a group of people that go to a local anime convention and I was hoping to meet new people. When my friend asked them to add me it started this big thing of multple people in the group I don't know bullying and making fun of me. They're claiming I'm a racist and just all making fun of me and pretending they are me and quoting stuff like "ewww keep those big slur lips away from me" and "____ won't sleep with you cause you ain't white enough. 😂". They also referenced past conversations which means its an ongoing thing for this group to make fun of me I guess. For context I'm a black woman and the only reason they are giving for me being a racist is I didn't want to hookup with a guy in the friend group who is a black man. I don't feel comfortable having random hookups and have a long term partner currently who is white. My friend was the only one who defended me In the group but afterwards she said she still wanted to stay friends with the people bullying me and that she did her best trying to defend me. I feel really hurt that she's being friends with people who are bullying me and making up rumors especially after I reached out to one of the bullies about how hurt and confused I was that they were saying that stuff about me and they just laughed and said they can say whatever they want about me in a private conversation and it was none of my business. I feel like distancing myself from my friend now but I don't know if I'm wrong or overreacting by doing that since she did stick up for me. Any advice on what I should do?

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jae5mcx wrote

I know you want friends, but let go of this friend group there’s racist as anything. They are not your friends friends don’t behave like that find friends in a different way. When I first went out on my own, and I was very young I had all kinds of friends find. I had old people, friends, young people, all kinds of diversity as I was in a big city. And I was happy with them.

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SnooSongs6848 t1_jaed3l9 wrote

Honestly if it were me I’d get a good punch in hurting their feelings then leave the online group chat. Block them.

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