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ThrowRAPoloDolo OP t1_jae69zm wrote

Reply to comment by Jorhay0110 in How do I 19M get over my girlfriends 18F past hookups by ThrowRAPoloDolo

Responding to your last sentence, I feel like if she doesnt tell me the thought of it will just eat me alive. Like when she told me about them i obviously wasnt happy but i was glad i knew rather than not knowing at all. One of the questions i asked her when we were talking about our former hookups was whether or not i had known or met any of them. I asked if i shook any of their hands before and she said yes and that comment felt like someone shot me in the stomach. Knowing that I dapped up someone that knew they had slept with my girlfriend before, unbeknownst to me

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Jorhay0110 t1_jae790c wrote

As I said, everyone has a past, are you saying it would bother you more to not know what happened than it does to know? What about her? Does she know about your past? Is she allowed to feel the same about you? Honestly, it seems like you’re super immature and, in no way, ready to handle a committed relationship.

Eta: regarding you meeting the other dude. If she purposefully introduced you to him then that’s messed up. But if you were at a party that he happened to be at and she couldn’t avoid the meeting then, again, it happens.

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ThrowRAPoloDolo OP t1_jae7rkx wrote

You’re probably right. I think we jumped into a relationship too soon and theres still some things I need to come to terms with in order to have a healthy relationship.

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Jorhay0110 t1_jae8c1a wrote

Indeed. See a therapist and talk about this stuff. Make sure you talk to your gf. Explain what is bothering you and that you need to step back from the relationship. But make sure you tell her in detail that she did nothing wrong and this is 100% a you problem!!!

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