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I hope this is a joke post. If not, you already know the answer.

Unfortunately I wish this was a joke lol.

>Would you give your eggs to your almost 50 yo mom to have another kid?

Fuck no.

Well, you don’t need strangers to tell you the idea is ludicrous.

Fair. The mental turmoil I’ve been through with my parents has me second guessing all things, so it’s nice to get some unbiased reassurance.

Respectfully why are you here? I’m sure you know all of Reddit would say not to do it, and you’ve already communicated your decision to your mom.

I donated my eggs to randos in exchange for money. No chance I would do it for my mom, for free, under the kind of pressure she's put on you. What, and then sit back and watch her raise my kid??

I’d cut them out of my life immediately. You’ll feel a weight off of your shoulders.

Exactttttlllyy. That’s so fucking weird to even imagine.

No, just no. Why would you consider putting your child into that environment with those parents? You tell her one time, then you refuse to discuss it further. Don't respond at all. She's harrassing you because it works and she thrives on the drama, which you are allowing yourself to be drawn into. Boundaries.

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Does she know this isn’t like borrowing a sweater? You would have to undergo a lot of medical tests and procedures that cost money. Does your mom have the funds to finance this?

And not to be awful but she doesn’t need another baby at 50. 🤷‍♀️

You can’t stop her from asking repeatedly but you can tell her “If you continue to ask, I will block you/leave/hang up/not respond. You asked, and I answered. It’s no.” Then stick to your guns. She will either learn or lose what relationship she has with you. Her choice.

Also the idea that this baby is genetically yours and your STEPDAD’s is 😳🤢 She is out of her mind.

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I truly just wanted to see how other people would handle this situation.

YES to all of this. At one point in the texts she was even like “technically I gave you the eggs you have” and “you can pick the gender yourself”

Shit is absolutely wild and I am convinced she’s not in her right mind rn.

Um, hell no!!

She also gave you your limbs does she want one of those back? Like wtf. Nice try with the “you can choose the gender.” What a generous offer!

She’s probably spiraling about aging out of her fertile years, keeping her husband locked down (although he doesn’t sound like a prize), and the idea that she can “do it right” this time. Although given how she’s behaving I don’t see her as more mature than anyone on Teen Mom.

She’s going to keep pushing so please feel free to ignore her and any flying monkeys she sends to you.

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Fuck no.

Except this sub is for relationship advice and you are not asking for relationship advice.

I mean it has to do with a mother daughter relationship.

Your post was removed because it doesn't fit the subreddit. Stop reposting it.

It was removed because I used something f against the rules before. Lol

Nope. Your mother sounds like a train wreck and a shitty parent. If your stepdad is just getting out of rehab, I doubt he’ll be a source of stability either. The poor hypothetical child deserves better than that.

Anybody that sends me 25 messages in one night is getting “No” for answer. And I sure don’t want them raising a kid. She sounds unstable.

Ignoring all of that, no, I would not give my mom an egg to have another kid. That’s just weird.

OH HELL NO! Do not give this woman your eggs. You have a limited number of eggs and if you decide to have children you may not be able to after this procedure.

Also, you know she is a shit mother. Why would you do that to another child? It's cruel. She doesn't deserve another child.

Nope, mom needs some therapy! Hell, she would be 70 before a kid graduates, not to mention, she sucked as a parent to you!

The entire procedure is very very expensive.

Unless she is rich, she's delusional.