redditer6877 t1_jaduaxz wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:50 PM

I say this with kindness, but it sounds like you are looking to him to “fix” you when you say “could you just tell me how can I make this work?”. The answer doesn’t lie with him. It lies with you. I think you could honestly benefit from therapy to work through your feelings of abandonment. That’s on you to resolve, not him or anyone else. That would put him or any future partner in a really unfair position and would probably set up even more of a codependent/clinging relationship.

UCCUTE OP t1_jadwuuy wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:06 PM

Thank you so much! I do feel I kinda always rely on other people to help me fix my issue. I’ve been even trying to focus on my own life. I walk my dog three times a day and cook and study, go to school and gym. Even though im busy enough I still miss him a lot. At the beginning I was dating him for fun, I’ve been even trying dating and talking to 15 guys at the same time to not feel lonely. But he’s the only one I want to talk now and he has already seen I changed a lot. I have nothing to do at the beginning, no hobby no my own life busy with dating. I really want to know what I can do to let him don’t feel stressful anymore and make him believe I will be better myself. I would like to change everything for him and for myself.