my (19f) boyfriend (19m) has thousands of porn titles in his notes

Submitted by No_Raspberry_7071 t3_11e5kp2 in relationship_advice

so i asked my boyfriend if he watches porn and he said he does but not very often because he finds it ‘boring’. i know it was bad of me to go through his phone but curiosity got the best of me and while my boyfriend was in the shower i had a weird gut feeling about his notes app. i opened it up and there was loads of porn titles, mostly MILFs, lesbians, BDSM, redheads (his ex was a redhead) but i am now very disturbed and wished i never looked. i can’t look at him the same now. especially because none of the actresses look like me, they are mostly blonde, big tits, redheads, have tattoos etc. and because his ex was a redhead i’m now thinking he still misses her.

tl;dr how can i stop feeling so shit about my boyfriend watching porn?

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angradillo t1_jaclf7l wrote

Going through your partner's phone in this situation, you were invading their privacy for sure.

That being said. This is probably a "you" problem in terms of how do you feel about this? Is your partner watching pornography a dealbreaker? Is the amount of pornography he's watching unhealthy?

Collecting hundreds of porn titles... I don't know. Seems weird to me. Could be a "joke collection" or something. I don't understand why he wouldn't just save the files or links, but the titles.

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procrastinationprogr t1_jactgdr wrote

This just seems wierd, most people would save their porn as favorites on said porn pages and not in notes.

That said porn is fantasy and not reality. Don't get in your own head over this.

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