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Opening the dating app is an intention to cheat. Trying to match with someone is an intention to cheat. Chatting with someone on a dating app is an emotional affair. Meeting them and giving them a hug or a kiss is a physical affair.

Unless she dumped you first... you mentioned she dumped you in the title... and you were only bf/gf, so what does it matter now? She failed the gf test. Find a better person.

Happened while we were together.

No. She dumped you instead of cheating. I don’t see how it matters. I hurts either way. Focus on you. You’re in for it, healing is hard.

So I can talk to other girls in my relationships and fall in love with them than not tell my partner and dump them? Sounds great doesn't it?

Right, but it is now moot. You can't dump her for cheating on you as she already moved on. It's called 'monkey branching'. You don't let go of one branch until you have a good grip on the next. She let go of your branch. Shake her off and upgrade to the non-cheating type of gf.

Yeah I'll do that

It happens. The merciful dump you and move on. The cruel just cheat. The cowards stay and resent you. It’s not cheating. If someone meets a person they prefer and leave it just them leaving. I think you’re better of considering the options. You need someone who isn’t still looking. She obviously was keeping her options open. She isn’t LTR material.

Why would you have options if your committed to someone?

Cause she’s NOT committed. I’ve been friends with these girls my whole life. Every guy is the best once they get together but somehow they are still looking for bester. And they were not receptive to advice. Some people just aren’t ready. Why do they pretend to want it and hurt people? I don’t know.