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seventeencharacters t1_jadbeyr wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in my wife F 50 wants to emigrate to Canada and I MtF 40 want to stay in the UK, what do we do? by [deleted]

>So have you considered how this move is going to impact them?

I'm worried that it could confuse and unsettle him as he has an ASD diagnosis (high functioning though).

>Would your child be able to continue their schooling like "normal" in 2026 That I'm not sure about. I think the kids start later in Canada though

>At the same time, your wife made it clear to you that moving to Canada is a must to her....

Yeah, I feel responsible as she was living in Canada when we started dating (initially a long distance relationship) - so from the outset I knew that at some point I might have to live in Canada at some point.

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[deleted] OP t1_jadngyq wrote

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seventeencharacters t1_jadrk8j wrote

>And we both spent plenty of time in each others countries....

We did discuss the idea of moving to Canada on a temporary basis, i.e., 5-10 years before returning. I was and still am totally up for that without hesitation. What I'm concerned about is the fact that in say 8-13 years time I don't see returning to the UK being likely, especially when my son will be 21

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[deleted] OP t1_jads7qj wrote

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seventeencharacters t1_jadvr4d wrote

>when you were dating, did you regularly travel to Canada and give it a real chance?

I've been twice, once when we first met in person and once for a holiday. Both times were amazing, I just can't put my finger on why. I guess for moves as big as this I want to have obvious signs of it being a good idea.

Maybe this is just cold feet, I just want to make sure it works out.

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KitPipin t1_jadyld4 wrote

You can't make sure it works out without actually putting any work into it, you know.

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