SapphireChi OP t1_ja8p022 wrote on February 27, 2023 at 5:50 PM

Reply to comment by AnonOpinionss in My gf (20F) wants to propose and doesn’t know that I (21M) know by SapphireChi

Well there’s a couple reasons, we have a 3 month old and I feel it would be easier to wait as she would be older and I’d be even more financially free. I understand you can be engaged for a while before actually getting married also. Maybe just the idea of actually being engaged scares me.

AnonOpinionss t1_ja8q4qx wrote on February 27, 2023 at 5:57 PM

Financial reasons make sense, definitely. Weddings can get quite expensive, even small ones.

Personally, I don’t see how being engaged can be scary when you’ve willingly had a child with this person already lol.

Still, I think I’d actually be completely honest in this case. I’d probably confess to knowing her plan and explain why I wasn’t ready and that I’d like to wait a few more years.

Or, you can both discuss having a long engagement, if you’re willing to say yes. Personally, I’m a fan of long engagements, but I know some ppl aren’t.