RepresentativeSplit5 OP t1_jae1k6v wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:36 PM

Reply to comment by theycallhertammi in My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has lived with me for a year and has no intentions to start paying rent or bills by RepresentativeSplit5

No, we’ve discussed it many times. If we aren’t fighting and I bring it up, he ignores me. If we are fighting, he says he doesn’t want to pay because he doesn’t want a future. Then when things are better, he takes that back and lather rinse repeat.

theycallhertammi t1_jae46l3 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 7:52 PM

Ok so he needs to pack his things and go back to mom and dad’s. He can leaves a few items in a drawer. He can stay over 1-2 times per week. Let him know that you will be getting a roommate so the time he gets to come over will be limited. He has no problem using you so you have to set boundaries so that doesn’t happen anymore. I would be cautious moving forward with him. A man that can watch you struggle likely won’t make a good life partner.