Submitted by Pho317 t3_11e0pql in relationship_advice
We are all in our mid-thirties, I went on a short weekend trip with 3 friends (M), I'm the only F. One of them organized and booked everything (we split costs at the end), but when we arrived at the hotel, realized he booked 2 rooms so we would have to split 2-2, when he also had the option to book a family room for all of us (bigger living space + cheaper). I never thought he would book any other kind of room, but he said it would be more comfortable and the price difference wasn't big. After finding out we had to split, he and I naturally had to room together as he didn't know the 2 others as well.
The room had twin beds thankfully, but I still felt very uneasy because there was no discussion or heads-up about this. In the end, except when going to sleep, we mostly all hung out in the other room (it was a bit cramped as a result).
This friend is also married, while the remaining 3 of us are single. Honestly I would be really uncomfortable if my husband purposefully booked a separate room just to share with a female friend, even if it's a twin bedroom. He and I are good friends of about 5-6 years, but not super close. We never spent time 1-on-1 before.
I'd have been perfectly happy sharing with everyone, but if we had to split rooms, I'd think it would either be me alone and the three guys together, or everyone their own room. Or if he wanted to have more comfortable space, he could have booked his own room. But this 2-2 setup didn't seem appropriate, especially without talking about it with me first.
I kind of see him a bit differently now, and am more suspicious about his intentions. For example, since this trip he has been really insistent to go on other trips, meet up and what not - without mentioning who else with. What do you think, should I say something, or am I being too paranoid??
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