throwRAstrandedgirl OP t1_jaeizj3 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:27 PM

Reply to comment by ereignishorizont666 in I (22F) want to break up with my boyfriend (25M) and go back to my city because of his female friend (23F) but I'm stranded by throwRAstrandedgirl

Thank you. It's not that I mind him having female friends, it's that he never discussed this with me and he point blank told me that he was interested in a few of them before he met me. He doesn't seem to understand how that makes things awkward for me. You could argue that yes, he chose me but I just think that it's messed up of him to put me in that situation.

He told me that we were going to be staying in his friend's grandma's house and be renting it once we came up with the money. When we got into town, he blindsided me with that. He can't understand why I'm not happy and why I just want to go home.

I may be old fashioned but I think that it's inappropriate for him to expect me to do this. Do you think I'm overreacting to the situation? One could argue that I'm just being insecure but I just think it's inappropriate.

ereignishorizont666 t1_jaejn7i wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:31 PM

He's not listening to what you want to do. That alone is enough to support your decision

throwRAstrandedgirl OP t1_jaek0a1 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:33 PM

Exactly. The biggest thing that sticks out for me is that I'm telling him that I don't want to do this and that I just want to go home and he's not listening to me. I forgot to mention that he expects me to stay there and help her clean and take care of her kids while he's at work. I didn't ask for this and it was never discussed with me. I honestly think that he either needs to be with her or needs to be single.

If he's so happy to help her out then he needs to be with her. This is not how the situation was discussed with me. I honestly think he just brought me here because he wants to have somebody to help his friend when he's not available to do it. I'm fed up.

Maybe I'm overreacting but I just think it's inappropriate to expect me to live with someone that I hardly know and someone that he considered as an option before he met me. Now he's expecting me to do all this for her and I'm not having it.

ereignishorizont666 t1_jaekl59 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:37 PM

A bus is only about $20. If you are unsure how to vet people on Craigslist or not comfortable with strangers, you might want to contact any of the services for women in Gainesville. Pretty sure someone would help with a ticket.

throwRAstrandedgirl OP t1_jael0fd wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:40 PM

Forgot to mention that to me, it doesn't matter that his friend is being nice to me. It's not even really anything to do with her, it's to do with him not discussing this with me and forcing me into an awkward situation. I'm sure it's probably awkward for her as well. I just don't see it working out and I want to go home so I'm going to call them now. Thank you very much.

throwRAstrandedgirl OP t1_jaekwwv wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:39 PM

Okay thank you. I'm going to go outside and call them right now. I didn't think they would help me since it wasn't a clear-cut case of abuse. I thought you had to be being hit or something. It's really starting to feel like control though. I think it's more so the fact that I don't know any of his friends and he's basically forcing me into a situation that I didn't ask for. I'm not interested in getting to know his friends anymore and I just want out of the relationship.