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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jaddz1y wrote

I swear I’m gonna finish reading it, but just the title alone I do not understand why people are trying to protect a person that is harmed them. Protecting an extra cheats usually gets turned back on you in someway because they’re not going to fess up.

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AffectionateWheel386 t1_jadf6wi wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#2,112,914)

OK that makes more sense. I’m of a mine were you may need to start making other friends. Do you have other people to go to that are outside of the group.

You can still say we broke up because he cheated and leave it at that. Because when you don’t do that you’re not even sticking up for yourself, you’re protecting his needs over your own. And he already did that. I had a group in my 20s like that to an eventually I just moved away from them. To nine own self be true.

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MsChrisRI t1_jadpjoq wrote

Making a big announcement would feel like deliberately stirring drama. But I see no reason not to drop it into conversations when it fits. For example, Guy Friend J rolls his eyes and mentions that your ex was flirting with his girlfriend again. You then have an opening to say “I wish he’d grow up and stop playing games. I found out a couple months ago that he sexted someone overseas for almost two years behind my back.”

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