I did bad 37M 21F

Submitted by Delicious_Diver5044 t3_11eo6it in relationship_advice

I hung out with someone else’s boyfriend for like 3 months and then we had sex while he was in a relationship with his gf the entire time. Now its like 3 months later but i still think about it and feel guilty. (No offence to anyone btw). Sometimes i don’t feel bad about it bc i know I’m awesome still. Sometimes i want to tell him he hurt my feelings etc. But im nervous to message him again bc now im starting to feel like myself again after its happened and i don’t wanna mess that up. Even talking about it now is hard. But i still have respect for him, and everyone else. Also throughout the relationship with me and him I kinda pretended everything was fine, which wasn’t honest bc inside i felt horrible.

*in response to a comment, advice on how to move on would be good, and if i should be honest and tell him how i really felt, etc.

TLDR: i had sex with a guy who was in a relationship with another girl.

** also i try to not feel bad about it, sometimes i don’t 😊

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razzledazzle626 t1_jaf4ujp wrote

Why the hell would you message him again? Did you not get enough satisfaction from helping him cheat before?

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