Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments

DplusLplusKplusM t1_ja9azzx wrote

She's not wrong that parents never get a day off. That's just what you sign up for when have a child. But if your wife needs naps during the day because she's up at night with your toddler it could be a sign that your one year-old hasn't been properly sleep trained. A 12 month old should be able to sleep through the night. So maybe work on that. If your wife could sleep at night she wouldn't need naps and likely wouldn't be so grumpy as she adjusts to the reality that parenting is a 24/7 job.

25

ThrowRA_resentfuldad OP t1_ja9bz1m wrote

Yeah our 1 year old is now sleeping through the night. We will have random wake-ups from the 3-year-old, the baby, or the dog. Seems that most nights something will break our sleep at least once, but just very quickly and we all go back to bed. But whenever that happens we all kind of wake up, so it's not something she solely has to deal with. I will say that she was amazing dealing with all of the nighttime wake-ups the last year, which is wy I am only starting to get resentful now. I just assumed as the baby got older she would become more grateful. That has not been the case.

6

thonman t1_jaceq5v wrote

Maybe a spa trip, or a weekend away wouldn't hurt. Maybe a romantic getaway for you two?

Remember, you're partners first, then parents, though infants can switch that a little. Show her how much you still love her.

2

ThrowRA_resentfuldad OP t1_jaedrep wrote

Thank you, this is great perspective.

2

thonman t1_jaee9zj wrote

Yw. I'm not trying to diminish either role, but sometimes you need to recharge the love meter, and remind yourself why you're together.

1