xoxoLizzyoxox t1_jac7jjm wrote on February 28, 2023 at 11:36 AM

I dont wanna say she has it easy but as a single mother to 2 who never had a nanny or help...she has it easy breezy compared to most mothers in the world. Im going to assume she is either depressed (maybe she should get a hobby that takes her away from the kids and back with adults) or she has PPD (its a depression too but completely different). Its easy to "lose yourself" when you become a parent, no matter how much help you have. Do you take her out on dates? I see you say what you do for the family but do you do things for your wife as a wife and not just the mother of your children?

ThrowRA_resentfuldad OP t1_jaede4j wrote on February 28, 2023 at 8:51 PM

Thank you for the perspective. I think we both feel very fortunate and have stated that to each other. But then when we look inward to our little personal bubble we do way too much self pitty vs what the other's role is. Yeah we do go on dates about once a month without kids, and we go out to a nice dinner with kids about 2x a month. We have not gone on a nice vacation without kids in years though.