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tuna_fart t1_jad3lz8 wrote

You married a bucket of red flags. Chaos ensued. It’s what you should have expected.

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad49ej wrote

You’re absolutely right. Before I got married my coworkers and my boss got together for dinner. And they all encouraged me not to go through with marrying this woman. Taking care of somebody with mental illness is a difficult task. But I’m like that type of person that wants to help people even if it’s at my own demise. At the time it felt like it would be not a noble thing to do to leave somebody that I loved because they had this flaw in their mental. It seemed like a despicable thing to do. So I moved forward with marrying her because I loved her. And I wanted to do the correct thing.

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tuna_fart t1_jad5omu wrote

Well, so it sounds like things worked out the way you expected. This is a ‘frog and scorpion’ story.

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Stunning-Profit8876 t1_jad4axt wrote

I mean... she warned you that she was an emotionally unstable flake up front OP. She even gave you a practice run prior to you getting married. I'm not sure what you were thinking or what advice you need, other than DON'T MARRY A CRAZY PERSON NEXT TIME.

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad67dk wrote

I guess it’s like that thing that people say. Which probably means it’s bullshit. But anyways… If you love something let it go if it comes back to you at yours forever. I thought that the story we were living. Her sister has mental illness also and lives with the family in Vietnam. People don’t recognize mental illness in Vietnam. No medication and no therapy. Her sisters life is really sad. She got married off to the neighbor, the farmer boy to get rid of her. Thinking that that’s the life that my ex could’ve had, there’s no way I could’ve allow that to happen.

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TimelyFortune t1_jad42ok wrote

Why the fuck would you marry her? Jesus Christ man

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad5u7a wrote

She is beautiful, and we were in love. When things were good we had a really nice life together. She helped with my kids. We support each other through school. This girls my soulmate brother. My best friend. You don’t give up on people you love because they’re broken. That’s how I felt and how I still feel.

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TimelyFortune t1_jad61rk wrote

You give up on them when they disappear on you for 9 months

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Tricky_Country_2262 t1_jad7al9 wrote

I mean I totally agree with your advice in logic. But I guess that’s the problem and that’s why I’m here. So I can hear it from other people. Because you know the heart wants what the heart wants and it has little or nothing to do with the logic a lot of the time. But I appreciate your advice. And it’s what I hear from the people around me and so I know it’s probably totally accurate. But just because they head knows it’s true doesn’t make the heart hurt less.

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madsjchic t1_jad9i24 wrote

I think you’re a lovestruck idiot? If she has mental illnesses, she is not ready for a relationship and IT SHOWS. You’re also reaching fairly far to blame her for shit she wasn’t around for. She disappeared for 9 months but you went through with a marriage? Think of your children and just don’t with this hot mess situation. Good god.

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