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laserox t1_jae30ii wrote

"staying for the kids" means teaching your kids this is a normal family dynamic and they should stay with a crappy partner just like mommy did.

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CassCorazon OP t1_jae3sgc wrote

The kids don’t see him verbally attacking me. It’s mainly through text. Or very quickly when we are alone. I don’t actively fight in front of them. It isn’t an excuse it’s just the situation I am in with the baby. Had I not had a baby, I could really just up and go and figure things out. I feel the baby complicates things by 10,000

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laserox t1_jae49vj wrote

It does, but it doesn't change the bottom line.

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CassCorazon OP t1_jae4zxr wrote

You’re right. Trust me. I would give this same advice to a friend. I am just saying that up and leaving is not really possible in the moment and I have no clue how to get my point across

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laserox t1_jae5bsj wrote

If he won't take counselling seriously I'm not sure you have many other options. He has trust/insecurity issues that you can't talk your way out of. He needs help, but he needs to want to be better or it won't stick.

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