Submitted by Sweaty-Ad-3659 t3_11dsixk in relationship_advice
I’d like to start by saying that I love my boyfriend, with whom I’ve been in a relationship for 3,5 years, soooooooo so much, like for real, I still look at him with dreamy eyes, he’s the perfect boyfriend, we connect on so many levels, intellectually, emotionally, sexually and so on. I’m sure I want to be with him for the rest of my life and there’s nothing about him that I would change. I came to study abroad (and so did he) and we discussed opening the relationship because we know we want to be together, but we don’t want to be old and feel we haven’t experienced enough. We have decided not to - although we are not sure yet. The problem is: I’ve been abroad for 2 weeks and I met a guy that is so confident and so sexy and I just want to touch him. I would never cheat on my boyfriend, I respect him and love him too much. So I have 2 options: break up with the one I thought was the love of my life because I feel like I’m a terrible girlfriend for having these feelings, or be honest about what I’m feeling, explaining that it’s purely physical and that it doesn’t mean I love him less and potentially damage my relationship. I could have a 3rd - ignoring my crush, it would be the smartest thing to do, I think, but I really can’t help it. Please, any advice would be helpful.
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