I (M19) broke up with my gf (F18) the same day she kisses a guy I have been uncomfortable with out entire relationship. Now we want each other back.

Submitted by AnyCloud9230 t3_127vk76 in relationship_advice

I (m19) had a gf (f18) me and her dated for a year and a half when I felt like we were no longer meant to be. Then the same day she kissed a guy that I had been uncomfortable with the entire relationship. I learned from her friend that she kissed him and I confronted her about it. She said she didn’t know what she was doing and was so upset she couldn’t think properly and went with him and he kissed her. While she said it was one of the biggest mistakes she ever made and that she will have to live with it for the rest of her life and she feels miserable. Then a few weeks later we both miss eachother and want to consider getting back together. But now I can’t Stand the thought of kissing her. I want her back but I don’t know what I should do.

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Radiant-Legend t1_jeg0avc wrote

Normally when a girl goes after the guy she told you not to worry about going back to her is a terrible idea. This seems no different. Let her go.

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Redd_81 t1_jegayo8 wrote

Here's the thing, she's shown you when she tells you 'not to worry' about a guy, you SHOULD worry...

If you get back together, there is always going to be a guy she is telling you 'not to worry about.'

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AnyCloud9230 OP t1_jegb3qc wrote

The one thing is that she told my I get access to her phone 100% and I can delete anyone I want whenever I want.

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modernbilquis77 t1_jegkssc wrote

They usually say that when they get caught, then when you want to check it regularly, that's when they get angry because you already checked her phone once, and it was fine. Why do you need to again? She's not cheating, and if you keep asking, it's because you don't trust her even though she did 100% make you look stupid.

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Redd_81 t1_jegy5vc wrote

Does that sound like a healthy relationship dynamic?

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lovelynutz t1_jeg22pz wrote

Don’t settle for second place dude. Find someone who won’t screw you over.

Good luck

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Indecks9999 t1_jeg804w wrote

Life is a marathon, Always keep moving forward. If you keep going backwards, you will keep making the same mistakes

Find someone who makes you their first choice in life

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Seemedlikefun t1_jeg38rf wrote

No! Noooo! Noooooooo! You take her back, and she'll know that she can get away with it and you'll just take it. If you take her back you just confirm for her that her lack of respect for you was and is warranted. She'll ruin your life if you don't run away as fast as you can.

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LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegcfci wrote

Question.....from how this reads she kissed the guy after you broke up with your GF? Is that correct?

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AnyCloud9230 OP t1_jegckfw wrote

Yes I broke up with her bc I felt is was right at the time and then she he kissed a guy the same day the break up happened

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AuntyVenom t1_jegfccg wrote

You broke up with her and she kissed someone else. She doesn't have to and won't regret this the rest of her life; it's a trivial thing she did and she didn't do it to you. You dumped her and she reacted. It's part of dumping someone, that the person you dump may lash out or run out and do something sexually with someone else? If you can't stand the thought of kissing her anymore, and you already dumped her for (lol) feeling you were no longer meant to be, perhaps leave each other as ex partners and move on?

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LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegiyow wrote

You did break up with her. It isn't cheating. It was only a kiss. She may have been distraught with you breaking up with her and needed validation that she was attractive. It was a just kiss, nothing more.

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