smellyrox t1_jegnorb wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:45 PM

Reply to comment by the-mirrors-truth in My(23F) Bf(24M) shares bites of food with his younger sister by [deleted]

What of my views are messed up? That I think sharing food with your grown sister as a grown man is kinda weird and gross? I’m curious about what you think.

BeltalowdaOPA22 t1_jegqr2x wrote on March 31, 2023 at 10:07 PM

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

Don't ask for advice if you're going to argue with every single person who doesn't tell you what you want to hear.

smellyrox t1_jegrabf wrote on March 31, 2023 at 10:11 PM

I guess I’m just trying to get explanations so I know what the general consensus is. I grew up abused so my judgement on a lot of things is a little skewed sometimes and the only want to make sense of it is to get other peoples thought processes and rationalizations. I’m not arguing to be obtuse, I’m arguing to genuinely learn things that weren’t taught to me when they needed to be taught to me

the-mirrors-truth t1_jego6w0 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:49 PM

Your sexualizing a relationship between siblings.

Sharing food and kissing are two very different activities and neither are actually connected especially not between siblings.

smellyrox t1_jegpd5r wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:57 PM

They’re super weird with each other and she’s always wearing the tiniest clothes. Is it abnormal for me to sexualize their relationship when I don’t think I could be that comfortable being nearly as naked around my brother unless I were at the beach? In combination with their super close attachment and constant touching, sexual jokes, and sharing food? Like am i really that wrong for hating the dynamic because it feels incestual to me?

the-mirrors-truth t1_jegq95f wrote on March 31, 2023 at 10:03 PM

Sexual jokes are weird depending on contacts.

But for most siblings they don't actually view their siblings in a sexual way regardless of what they're wearing so yes being paranoid about her clothes says more about your insecurities than it does about their relationship.

If it bothers you so much reconsider the relationship.

Normal siblings don't think anything of their siblings body or in the same sphere as a sexual partner.