How can I (24f) help my bf (24m) relax this week after long shifts?

Submitted by notsokeesiafterall t3_1262jiq in relationship_advice

He struggles with work anyway as he has chronic fatigue, works 5am-5pm, is prone to depression, and travels for 2 hours there and back. This week he is doing overtime (only Thursday left, not Friday) and leaves at 5am but doesn't get home until 9pm. His body aches so he gets in, eats, showers and then we lay in bed watching whatever he wants. Thankfully he is definitely relaxed doing so. I massaged him last night but I want to do more for him. Even if it is just on the weekend I would like to spoil him a little.

I've offered to uber eats him lunch at work so he can nap on his breaks and not go out to buy it. I make sure I am there to cuddle him to sleep. I tidy his room so he has a nice environment to come back to. He's happy and his mental health this week has been better than we anticipated. He doesn't need me to do anything but I would like to show my appreciation and love for him, if anything. We are going out this weekend shopping and for a meal, as we didn't last week for our 6 months. I can treat him to any clothes he likes or pay for our meal.

TLDR how would you like to be treated after a tough week at work? Are there big or small gestures that make you feel loved or appreciated?

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MckittenMan t1_je77zj5 wrote

I don't know, sounds like you're doing a phenomenal job at it. If what you're doing goes unappreciated, he is expecting too much.

His is work schedule a permanent thing, or is this a one off situation. That can be concerning for mental health long term.

You're doing great...

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HHIOTF t1_je79g84 wrote

Wow, you are very sweet.

He sounds like he needs to find a job closer. That's a ton of travel. I'm exhausted reading about it.

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notsokeesiafterall OP t1_je79s2f wrote

Replying to HHIOTF (#2,464,042)

Aw, thank you so much for that. I've been feeling insecure lately so hearing that is really uplifting!!

Sadly it is a lot of travelling but it is well paying and family owned. While it has its issues it is definitely something he takes pride in being good at and wants to climb the ladder. Though he has spoken recently about looking elsewhere, nothing is in the works. Hopefully he can find some more joy in his job or something nearby.

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