carbinePRO t1_jefwt4b wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:44 PM

Reply to comment by StarrySunflower714 in Partner (22F) won’t sleep with me (23M) by [deleted]

It's not a punishment though. They shouldn't be together if sex is OP's #1 priority, but you're painting out OP's gf to be this person who's maliciously withholding sex. Do you think that OP is owed sex?

StarrySunflower714 t1_jefwzuk wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:45 PM

No but i think you shouldn’t constantly reject your partner and should let them find another outlet or just leave so they can find someone worth dating wish similar desires.

carbinePRO t1_jefxq0g wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:50 PM

So then if they're going to stay together she has to put out? That's a pretty shallow and manipulative ultimatum, don't you think?

I agree that the advice here is to have a larger discussion about wants and needs, but you're coming out here with a massive bias and ignorant stance against aromantic individuals. It's not wrong how they do (or don't) feel about sex. All you needed to say was, "She needs to change pills." The rest was extremely, unnecessarily vilifying of OP's gf.

>Sex is one of my favorite things.

Please leave your bias out of this.

StarrySunflower714 t1_jefxyp9 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:52 PM

Sec is really important to some people and for those people being rejected and shat all over for wanting it is damaging to their mental health. If I started dating someone and everything was normal then they were like “oh by the way I’m ace and will never have sex with you” I’d block their number right then. There’s no point.

carbinePRO t1_jefyufn wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:58 PM

>Sec is really important to some people and for those people being rejected and shat all over for wanting it is damaging to their mental health.

What? Again with vilifying of OP's gf. She's not maliciously withholding sex. What is your problem? Not being in the mood shouldn't be damaging to your partner's mental health if there's proper communication happening. Like I said earlier, the best course of action here is to communicate feelings and desires with each other as it seems that all OP has ever done is just ask for sex. He doesn't know the why. He needs the why before a solution or compromise can be made.

>If I started dating someone and everything was normal then they were like “oh by the way I’m ace and will never have sex with you” I’d block their number right then.

You've exposed your ignorance, because ace-folk still have do and like having sex. It's just not as frequent or a motivator for them like it is for most. Please leave your bias at the door. I don't think you're able to have a level-headed discussion on this topic as long as you keep making bias claims against ace-folk.