I’m going to start this off apologizing for how long the post is. There is a TLDR at the bottom.

I (18F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been together for a year. Our relationship can be toxic. Sometimes I’m scared to tell him things because I don’t know how he will react. My boyfriend is insecure and blames his previous relationships.

There has been some red flags recently, starting off with two months ago he confessed that he’s been lying about who he got with between his relationship with his ex gf and our relationship. When I mentioned that I cant trust him the same he put the blame on me saying I’ve done things that doesn’t let him trust me at all (this was the first I was hearing of this).

Him and I are in a friend group of 6 people, one friend I’ll refer to as S (18f) and the other M (19m). M and S are dating, M is one of my boyfriends best friends they’ve been friends for 5 years now and S was one of my best friends (that’s another story). we got them together about 8 months ago. I would talk to S about my relationship and things I wanted to improve as my bf would talk to M.

A few months ago my bf wanted me to cut off S because of how I was being treated but I never did.

I feel like I should add M does not like me and My boyfriend has lied to M and S saying he needs to use S’ v@pe because I’ve taken him to that point but he has confessed to me that he just wanted to use it. I didn’t do anything.

Everyone in our friend group was lying to S, and when i found out I told her since her and I were close. Her boyfriend lied and manipulated her to believe I was the bad guy (their words not mine). He came clean and she apologized to me. This was a few weeks ago. (We believe this to be the reason of the next part)

A few nights ago M and my bf were playing a sport together and S was there. I was not due to work. I checked my bfs location after the sport because he was supposed to be done at 10pm. He was still there so I figured they were talking and I had no issue with it. An hour later I saw he was at home so I texted him “hey, what did M say?:)” and he responded saying he can’t talk to me. I asked why and I wasn’t getting an answer. I knew he was talking to M and S so I reached out to S asking what was said and she ignored me.

I ended up going to my bfs house last 1am to try to talk. He told me that they have told him things I haven’t about me and I have once chance to come clean. I asked what it was and he told me the following things.

1. a guy asked for my number, i didn’t give it to him and I told my boyfriend about the conversation. Essentially the guy called me pretty and asked if it would be weird if he asked for my number. I said I have a boyfriend and left it but because it was awkward I said “well im here every Sunday I’m sure I’ll see you around” and walked away. I didn’t tell my boyfriend this because I didn’t think it was important since it was just how I ended the conversation and I have no intentions of talking to this guy again. But that caused a bigger issue with him because M and S made it sound like I’m going to cheat on him.

2. it was recently S birthday. At the party apparently I was constantly rolling my eyes and trying to show cleavage to M while sitting with my Bf. Now if i did this it was completely unintentional. But I feel like they’re digging into things.

3. they accused me of flirting with people while im working. I said to my boyfriend he should know me better than anyone else and know I will never cheat and have never cheated. (He has on previous girls) M works with someone that is a regular at work and apparently I’m “close with his friend group” when they come in.

I have never deliberately hid something from my boyfriend. I genuinely didn’t think anything of any of these.

I’ve brought up to my boyfriend about mentioning to M that we want to stop talking about both relationships in general but my boyfriend keeps saying he needs a few days to think over it. Every time M reaches out he’s trying to tell my boyfriend something new he may have found on me.

My bf and I both think they’re doing this to get back at me for telling S about what M lied about.

My boyfriend keeps constantly bringing up going on breaks (I don’t believe in them) or breaking up. I feel like I’m the only one fighting to keep this relationship. How do I try and move forward to get a healthy relationship back?

I feel done with M and S, they’ve been constantly making little comments like I am jealous of their relationship or “I used to this (my boyfriend) was the problem but now I can see it’s (me)”. They have copied many of the gifts my bf and I have gotten each other, the largest being a ps5 and Xbox series x. When we got them for each other M said “why don’t you buy me an Xbox” S did along with a monitor to “one up” my bf and I. We don’t usually hang out with them, maybe once every 3 weeks. I have caught them both saying things behind my boyfriend and my back. My boyfriend has also said that he can’t trust M because of him lying in the past. I know many people have bought their significant other a console but they the way they’ve said some of the comments it sounds like they’re deliberately trying to be better than us.

They are in a very toxic relationship and M will say anything he can to get his way. For example I was once hanging out with S; M called calling her names and then saying “ everyone sees your attitude issues. Your mom sees it. (My name) sees it.”

They were talking to my bf about me on Monday night. Its now Friday. I haven’t talked to either M or S and have no intentions on reaching out. Apparently they have asked my bf where they stand with me but I told my bf to tell them if they want to know to talk to me.

TL;DR - my boyfriends friends (one of my ex bsf) are getting in between our relationship and I don’t know how to move forward if he won’t set boundaries. How can I help our relationship?