Submitted by ThrowRA223300 t3_127yryo in relationship_advice
We have been together for 6 years and he is my first. he has broken my trust, which probably plays a part in our issues, and I have only finished once in the relationship. When he initiates something, It feels more like something I have to do rather than something I want. Because he always comes on to me, he tells me that he wishes I would come on to him, I think maybe the way he acts puts me off. For example, sometimes he wants help finishing, and when I reject him, he responds with "I'm not asking for much" or "just give me a minute" or "you dont even have to do anything" or "just hug me while I do it," and then I will usually end up helping him. Just last night he started a sexual act, I said no and I sat up once, He may not have heard me or he didn't take me seriously, he stopped because I kept making comments that it was going to go in and he got frustrated, saying it wasn't going to. He said he didn't realize I wasn't in the mood and said I didn't give it enough time for it to start feeling good. Im not sure how doesn't know when I'm not interested. A little bit later he came on to me again wanting me to help him, and I told him im gonna start acting like him tomorrow. instead of him coming on to me, I will come on to him and will make similar comments and maybe then he would understand. he then kept begging for me to help him out because he thought I meant I would help him out tonight and got frustrated when I wouldn't, saying he wouldn't let him finish, he went to bed upset, the next morning when I woke up he put my hand on it and when I pulled my hand away, he said I thought you were supposed to start today and that he was waiting, I told him I usually don't feel very good in the morning, And we got into a little argument over all of it. he said things like, "he didn't get to finish last night" and I told him that when he does things like this, it makes me not want to do it. When I was done explaining to him He said "I guess I have a higher drive than you" what should I do? I try to explain to him my feelings
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