Submitted by hiphopbulldozer t3_1281xza in relationship_advice
(All M25) I go out to eat with my two friends about once a month. It never fails, that at some point during the meal the server does something that they dislike and they use that as a justification to not leave a tip. It could be the slightest thing.
Years ago their excuse was always “we’re broke college kids, no way I’m leaving a tip haha!” But now it’s always “it took too long,” or “they took 5 minutes to get my beer” etc…
I know that they don’t really care about service, they just do this cause they are cheap. Plus, they kind of think it’s funny.
It’s aggravating to me though, not just because it’s wrong, but because I end up having to compensate for all three of us cause I feel bad. I’ve tried explaining that to them, but they tell me stuff like “haha well just don’t compensate for us then! We’re not tipping!”
Other than this my friends are pretty good people, they just do this one stupid thing.
I’m tired of leaving a tip for three people, but I don’t know what to do about it. Any advice would be great. Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: My friends always find an excuse to not leave a tip, and I have to compensate for them.
yowen2000 t1_jegu01p wrote
> Other than this my friends are pretty good people
I have a hard time believing this if they use the tiniest reasons to not tip very hard-working service staff. I mean, this alone makes them by definition bad people, full stop.
Advice? Tell them you will no longer go out with them. That's what I'd do, I would not be able to be associated with that, it's so insanely disrespectful of someone that relies on you, especially larger parties, to pay their damn rent. And you're a damn saint for covering the difference, you should stop though, this isn't your responsibility.
Almost all problems servers have are not their fault, they are usually just the "messenger":
I find it's quite rare that i can attribute a problem in a restaurant to a server