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> Other than this my friends are pretty good people

I have a hard time believing this if they use the tiniest reasons to not tip very hard-working service staff. I mean, this alone makes them by definition bad people, full stop.

Advice? Tell them you will no longer go out with them. That's what I'd do, I would not be able to be associated with that, it's so insanely disrespectful of someone that relies on you, especially larger parties, to pay their damn rent. And you're a damn saint for covering the difference, you should stop though, this isn't your responsibility.

Almost all problems servers have are not their fault, they are usually just the "messenger":

• they aren't responsible for bad food
• they aren't responsible for food that is late
• they aren't responsible for bad management

I find it's quite rare that i can attribute a problem in a restaurant to a server

You have absolutely no say in what others do.

If they don't want to tip. That's on them.

You know who they are when you choose to go out with them.

You either accept it. Pay for their tips. Or don't go out with them.

I'd stop going out to eat with them, but that's just me.

Yeah I try to explain the last bit to them, that things aren’t usually the server’s fault. But they don’t care.

It's because they don't really have a valid reason, they are just being cheap.

As a server, I'd stop going out with those ppl. I don't think ppl who refuse to leave a tip are good ppl at all. They are screwing over the same broke college student, or worse, every time.

But they know that and don't care. So they aren't good ppl. They literally aren't paying for part of their bill. That's criminal.

I’d stop going out with them. They’re assholes. If you don’t want to go back to the same place and have someone spitting in your burger, ditch these asshats.