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jamicam t1_jeg4htw wrote

You declined the invite because of your gf's reaction, not because you knew it is a bad idea to meet up with an ex while you are in a committed relationship.

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pancake_gofer t1_jeg8e2l wrote

I told her that if she wasn't comfortable with meeting this person I wouldn't meet up with said person. I was 50-50 on it because things were odd and I wasn't sure what to make of things. Sure I'd want closure, but I wasn't going to go get it if the current person I'm with isn't comfortable with my meeting up with that ex.

I feel like I was trying to be honest with my gf but instead I'm suddenly some bad person and my GF is pissed at me.

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jamicam t1_jeg9ptf wrote

You do not meet with up an ex when you are in a new committed relationship.

You based your decision on your gf - if she wasn't comfortable, you wouldn't go. You put it on her.

Instead, it should have been that you told the ex no, and then told the gf that she asked and you declined.

Have clean and clear boundaries and don't allow these kind of messy things to happen. Your ex is your past. Move forward and stop looking back. Be committed and responsible in your new relationship.

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saclayson t1_jegft7r wrote

Why? Where did this rule come from?

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Waste_Vegetable8974 t1_jegvb2p wrote

Not a rule just common sense. Some folks can't deal with their SO exes being in the picture.

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