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pancake_gofer t1_jeg8e2l wrote

Reply to comment by jamicam in My gf [F22] is unhappy with me [M24] because I asked her if she'd be comfortable with my meeting an ex who asked to catch up. My gf wasn't comfortable with it, so I said no to a meetup. Said ex is in a serious relationship & we ended amicably, and apparently the latter fact makes my gf unhappy too? by [deleted]

I told her that if she wasn't comfortable with meeting this person I wouldn't meet up with said person. I was 50-50 on it because things were odd and I wasn't sure what to make of things. Sure I'd want closure, but I wasn't going to go get it if the current person I'm with isn't comfortable with my meeting up with that ex.

I feel like I was trying to be honest with my gf but instead I'm suddenly some bad person and my GF is pissed at me.

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jamicam t1_jeg9ptf wrote

You do not meet with up an ex when you are in a new committed relationship.

You based your decision on your gf - if she wasn't comfortable, you wouldn't go. You put it on her.

Instead, it should have been that you told the ex no, and then told the gf that she asked and you declined.

Have clean and clear boundaries and don't allow these kind of messy things to happen. Your ex is your past. Move forward and stop looking back. Be committed and responsible in your new relationship.

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saclayson t1_jegft7r wrote

Why? Where did this rule come from?

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Waste_Vegetable8974 t1_jegvb2p wrote

Not a rule just common sense. Some folks can't deal with their SO exes being in the picture.

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