Submitted by ethanwhitby t3_127icqh in relationship_advice
This is a bit long and first post but just need some advice.
At the end of last year me and my now ex (well call her R) broke up and I got with someone on my course (well call them S). Then over Christmas I went home from uni and saw R again and long story short we got back together despite my feelings towards S and their reciprocating them. Even at the time Ik that I made the wrong choice but R Is every good at emotionally manipulation so I stayed with her till last week she cheated on me. But over the last few months me and S have got way closer and are very close friends and they’ve now moved on to a different guy (well call him D) and Ik I’m not in the right place to start a new relationship so I can’t even do anything to compete with D expect ask S to wait for me but that doesn’t feel fair.
Any help would be much appreciated:)
Ladiesbane t1_jee91u6 wrote
Sorry mate -- you're just at the wrong part of the story. It's not fair to ask S to wait for you, and it's good that R is out of the picture, and so for now you are a party of one.
Advice: you don't have to rush into person #3, but don't wait for S, either. Just take life as it comes. If you meet someone new, let it happen; if S & D run their course, you'll be there.
Time alone can be centering, gives you a chance to reflect on the past and work on yourself.