Submitted by ThrowRAexgfpregant t3_127ont0 in relationship_advice
tuna_fart t1_jef1kw4 wrote
He didn’t lie to you. And it wasn’t inconsiderate if he wasn’t certain the child was his. You don’t have to accept being kept in the dark, but you weren’t entitled to anything in this case. It was his important information to share how and when he chose to.
bubblez4eva t1_jefbqea wrote
Stop trying to make excuses for him.
- Lying by omission is still lying.
- He should've told her of the possibility so she could make an informed decision. He knows that, she knows that and most rational people know that. Why don't you?
tuna_fart t1_jefdige wrote
There’s nothing to excuse. Telling someone something personal on your own timeline is not lying by omission. Neither is lying by omission “lying” at all. You’re not entitled to all personal details of anybody you date.
He did tell her. She did make an informed decision. Why are you pretending otherwise? And where do you get off pretending you speak for “most rational people” in the first place.
If you were to say you’d never disclosed something personal to a partner at a time of your own choosing, I’d call you a liar. And if you’d say that you had, I’d say then you’d need to go back and examine your points 1 and 2 above more honestly or else admit you’re a hypocrite. Which is it?
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